Tuesday, July 10, 2007

The best of intentions meet reality

In case you haven't noticed, I am catching up on posting... I have fallen woefully behind and do apologize for that. I know I keep telling people that I don't need to send them pictures because they are posted on the blog, but since I haven't updated the blog they have no pictures, blah blah blah it's a vicious circle.

I had all these grand ideas (*cough*delusions*cough*) when I was pregnant about what it would be like when George was here. He would be exclusively breastfed for the first 6 months of his life... he would sleep in his crib - binky free of course... I'd wake up in the morning, strap him into the jogging stroller, and go out for a quick 3 miles, after which I would return home and sip my (decaf) coffee while getting ready for work... I would kiss him good-bye and hand him to the nanny, heading off to the train where I would read my favorite magazines and mind candy books... I'd come home, prepare dinner for Tom and me, and we'd chat about our days while the boy played on his gym mat and the cats purred contentedly in the window... I would toss in a load of laundry, look around my clean house and smile, go upstairs and blog away about my blissfully happy life. Of course I would be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by the time I returned to work, and my pre-marriage weight by the annual beach trip.

HA. Hahahahahahahahahahhhhaaaaaaa!!!!! *snort* HHHHAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

For real. HA! He started getting formula in the hospital because he was just not getting enough to eat from me. For the first two weeks of his life, the only way I could get any sleep is if he slept on me... we were able to move him into the cradle swing in the corner of our room thanks to the Miracle Blanket recommended by the mommies on the running forum I chat on (and many thanks to those women for calming me down, helping me out, holding my hand, and laughing at me when I needed it. They got me through a lot!!). At four weeks we moved him to his crib, and Gretchen once again helped out by introducing me to a sleep positioner - between the swaddle and that he slept fairly well - and convincing me a pacifier was not a tool of the Devil and telling me to use the Fisher Price Aquarium - big product plug for that thing!! I remember once breaking down and crying to her that I had a battery acid eating binky sucking co-sleeper... little did I know... Starting at about 6 weeks the boy started sleeping through the night - going down between 10:00 and 11:00 and waking up around 5:00. That made such a difference!

I started the nanny search when George was about 4 weeks old, figuring it would take a couple weeks to find someone good and then I could have them in the house with me the first week or so and I could be here to ease the transition. HA. What the heck is up with people who apply to care for someone else's child?!?! Out of the 10 or so replies I got to the ad, I only wanted to even speak to 5 of them. After talking, 2 were immediately eliminated. When I told another one of them that we would be doing a background check I never heard from her again. The next one, after asking her to come by the house to meet us, told me that she actually didn't want to nanny in our house, she wanted us to bring George to her place where she watched a few other kids every day. When I asked her how many that was, she said "oh, 3 or 5 depending on the day." Uuuuuummmm, no. You need to be licensed for that in this state actually. And you lied to me from the get-go... do you think I'd trust my baby to you? The last one seemed to fall off the face of the earth, no longer returning my calls or emails. I then started calling day care places and that was worse. Finally, one of the places I called that did not have room for an infant - especially one who only needed part-time day care - called me back and said an old employee of hers was opening a home day care, it was already licensed by the State, and she was willing to take George part-time. I met with her and liked her a lot... George started the next week (before I was actually back to work to ease my separation anxiety).

The first day, Tom and I took him together. We walked in and chatted with Miss Andrea for a few minutes, meting some of the other kids and showing George around. They have a bouncy seat just like his at home, so we kissed him and strapped him into it and said good-bye. When we walked out the door I burst into tears and turned around to get my baby... Tom took me by the arm and gently led me away. Once again my running mommies came to my rescue - I was in tears and wanted to go get my baby... they chatted with me, consoled me, commiserated with me, told me to go shopping or go for a run... so run I did, for the first time since giving birth. It wasn't fast and there was lots of walking but it felt good. That afternoon I picked George up and all was well. He loves Miss Andrea and the kids at daycare.

Things have fallen into a routine here. Some mornings I get up early and "run" - between exhaustion and my lovely knees, it's not nearly as much as I would like. Tom takes the boy downstairs and feeds and dresses him while I pack his bag for day care. They leave and I get ready for work - including drinking a pot of full-caff coffee (and it was so hard to cut out caffiene when I was pregnant). On Wednesdays (my telecommute day) Tom brings him back up to me in bed and we sleep in a bit... on Thursdays and Fridays when Tom plays Mr. Mom they go back to bed when I leave. Tom brings him home from day care - usually before I am home from work - and they eat dinner. I eat when I come home... the guys curl up downstairs while I do work I brought home, try to tackle the mess in the house, do laundry, pay bills... whatever. We still take about an hour before we go to sleep to cuddle on the bed, read, and chat - a habit we got into when we first got married that I am glad we still do, only now George is usually in between us when we do this. We put him into his crib (with his binky and a blanket - I am a Britney mom) and we go to bed. We wake up in the morning and it all starts over.

You know what? My kid eats formula. He sucks on a binky. The house is a mess. I work too much. Tom works too hard and has the majority of child care most days since he takes George to and from day care and is home two days a week with him... we rarely eat dinner together... I had to buy new clothes because nothing I owned fit and I could not go to work in running pants or naked... the half marathon in September is not going to be pretty due to my lack of real running or training... but we are all happy and healthy, George is thriving, our marriage is strong... so I guess the best laid plans don't really matter. Life matters and we seem to be doing just fine at it.

Here he is all wrapped up in the swaddle (which Aunt Susan thinks is cruel) and in the positioner. And this is why he no longer uses either of those things and sleeps in little pajamas -



The little Houdini was busting out of both. He now curls up on his tummy with his little tushy in the air. I'll get a picture of that and post it later.

George's Baptism

George was Baptized by Father Ming at St. Mary of the Mills on March 24, 2007. He is very blessed to have Greg and Gretchen as his Godparents - they are wonderful friends to Tom and I (Gretchen has been my best friend for more than 20 years!) and will be supportive and loving in their role. George slept through the whole thing! (Tom told my boss Nancy that George didn't even know he was now a Catholic... she responded that little boys always know when they become Jewish! HA!)

After the Baptism we had a few family and friends over to our house for a brunch. Thanks to mom for coming down early to help me clean the house and get all the food ready! George loved meeting his Grandma Em and spending time with her.

Otilia very kindly took pictures for us. Unfortunately, I don't have them in digital format so I can't upload a picture until I can scan some.

Sunday, June 3, 2007

Happy two month birthday George!

On April 19, 2007, George turned 2 months old! His personality has really started developing... he is a happy, mellow baby. We really are lucky - God knew that with Tom and I being like we are, we would not do well with a demanding, clingy baby.

The stats - 12 pounds 12 ounces, 23 inches long. He is growing like a weed!

Here he is at two months, in his cool rock-and-roll skull romper.

It wasn't easy getting a good picture of him... I wanted to show his sweet smile and his little outfit so I tried to make him smile. Apparently mommy is quite funny - I kept cracking him up.



Cats!

Introducing...

FiFi (Tom prefers to call her Mom) - she is our mellow girl who prefers to be left alone. She stays on the bottom floor of the house - the family room/utility room area - and enjoys the solitude. She's our oldest cat, and is happy to sit on one of our laps while we watch TV and have her head scratched. She is the only one who has decided George is ok. She tolerates the other cats going into the utility room since that's where the littler boxes are, but when they come into the family room a fight usually ensues.

Tigger - TigTig, as we call him, is FiFi's baby and our only boy. He's a big boy - about 23 or 25 pounds, but don't let his size fool you... he's a timid guy. Tigger has the pinkest, softest nose of any cat. He spends most of his time sleeping on our bed even though I bought him a perfectly nice cat bed of his very own. No, I'm not yet over the fact that he has dissed that bed, although Tom points out that if you had your choice between a king sized bed with lots of pillows and blankets or a small circle of foam with a thin, padded bottom... where would you sleep?

Tigger did, once, deign to try out the bed I got him.

Pumpkin

Pumpkin is a munchkin cat. The vet thinks she may be a Himalayan, but it's hard to tell as her legs are only an inch long and she's shaped a bit odd and weighs a little over 5 pounds. She is quite kitten-like in her behavior... and the alpha of the house. We have no idea how that happened but at least once a day she kicks ass and takes names. She has a toy bee that is literally as big as her head that she carries around so the other cats don't get it, and she brings it to us to get cuddles. She has even dropped it at George's crib for him.Her new favorite place to hang out is on the bookshelf in our bedroom. This gives a better idea of her size.
For some reason, I don't have any pictures of my girl Yasmine. She's our youngest cat and the only one I brought into the marriage. I'll snap a few pics of her and update this later.

The Hillbilly Crib

Babies need a lot of stuff, most of it pretty big (especially considering the baby himself is pretty small). When George hangs out with Tom in the Family Room (aka Tom's Cave, the Red Room, or the Man Room), he needs a place to nap. I was going to get a Pack & Play, but Tom decided he could rig something up himself. Witness, the Hillbilly Crib:That's right... the boy sleeps in an old washbasket with a couple pillows and a blanket. The thing is, he likes it and always has a good nap in it. Unfortunately, he is starting to outgrow the "crib." Not only is he getting too long for it, now that he can roll over it is proving to be impractical - the other day he rolled over and got his little nose stuck in the spokes, causing his first boo boo.


He seems to have survived his first injury. The red cheeks are because he is starting to teethe... and that's not a bruise on his chest, it's a birth mark like I have, just on the opposite side of his body.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Since he hates taking a tubby

George doesn't really like having a bath. He doesn't hate it, but he does squack and usually pees in the tub. One day when we were getting ready to go out, Tom took the boy into the shower with him and he liked it! It's been showers ever since.

Enjoying the spray

Gotta wash the tushy
And all the other bits

Afterwards, it's nice to relax in a warm towel.

George is such a boy!






Nobody ever asks us if George is a boy or a girl... he's such a little boy! I guess it helps that he's always dressed in blue and little polos and henleys and such. This cute outfit was a gift from Michael and Elika.









Poor boy! Rather than help him, I take pictures while he slumps!

Easter 2007


We had planned on driving up to Erie so the PA folks could meet George... unfortunately, a freak snowstorm closed parts of the interstate with white outs and car wrecks. We did get to Andy's house to stretch out for a couple hours but were unable to take any pictures as both our camera and Julee's had dead batteries. After relaxing for a bit, we headed back home.

Easter Sunday we went to Mass at St. Mary's. George was quite festive in his bunny hat. This picture will be brought out when he starts dating... I am so going to be THAT mom! HA!

Call CYS!!

How many examples of bad/incorrect parenting can you find in this picture?

  1. Baby is on the bed
  2. on a pillow
  3. with a blanket
  4. and a cat
  5. unattended (well we did pop in to check on him... and take a picture!)
  6. wearing nothing but a diaper

At least he's not sleeping on his stomach. If you had the basket of laundry in the background on your list you don't get a point for it... that's an example of bad housekeeping, not bad parenting. Amazing the boy is thriving, huh?

Baby faces

I'm ignoring you...
Smirk!

Smile!

*MWAH* Kisses from the baby!


Happy one month birthday George!



March 19, 2007 - George is one month old! Hard to believe... I can't remember what it was like before he was with us - that may be because of the post-partum dementia or the lack of sleep, but I think it's because I love the little guy so much!

At his pediatrician appointment he measured in at 9 pounds 11 ounces and 20.5 inches.

Welcome to the world George!

George arrived on Monday, February 19, 2007, at 3:38 pm. He weighed in at 7 pounds 2 ounces and was 19.5 inches long. Once more for the record... I was NOT in labor for 28 hours. Heck, I wasn't even at the hospital for 24 hours before he arrived. And he was NOT in distress... he was just not happy with the contractions I was having that I could not even feel (shout out to Dr. Cabral the anesthesiologist for the awesome epidural!) so Dr. Ashkin felt it would be best to help him out. Tom was wonderful throughout the entire process, making sure I was ok and that the boy was all right when he came out, getting me ice chips even when the nurses said I couldn't have any, and just being there with me. Thanks to Gretchen for making me laugh (surely it's time to push!) those last few hours when I had to lay on my side hanging onto the bed rail so I wouldn't flop over.

Here he is at about 1 minute old -

He seems a bit dazed by the whole process!

He did NOT enjoy his first bath (still doesn't like them for that matter)...

but he did enjoy the back rub (and still does!)



And finally, after an hour of being banged around, he got to rest. Poor guy, he looks like he was in a fight.We brought him home on Thursday the 22nd. Getting ready to go home was an arduous task... first he had to get dressed (thanks to Ashley for the cute little outfit)... after days of hanging out in a diaper and t-shirt we expected him to wear clothes! After wrestling him into them, he decided it was a good time for a diaper change. In trying to keep his outfit clean while getting a new diaper on, we managed to let him pee on himself - including a good squirt on his face! The poor guy was NOT happy while we furiously wiped him down before the nurse came back into the room... and they still let us keep him!


And while I was induced to start labor, I don't think he was really overdue even though his due date was the 16th. When I had my first appointment with Dr. Ashkin I told him my calculations had the baby arriving on February 19. The doctors had him pegged for the 16th. It's good to know George listens to his mother. HA!